Does your Mum make you feel uncomfortable about your eating? Did she exacerbate your eating disorder and make it difficult for you to recover? Watch and empathise! x
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March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
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March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
Hey have you bee …
Hey have you bee binge-eating lately? I have been trying to recover from binge-eating. And the other day i binged on a whole bread-cake i made with bread, milk, eggs, butter, sugar, raisins, and it tasted real great, but next day i was depressed. So any ways i hope you feel good with your self and stay away from binge-eating. take care
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
i find this really …
i find this really interesting cause I’ve thought before that you can be quite hard on your mum sometimes, but now you’ve shown us a bit more of who she is I’m glad that you made this vid.
i have a friend with an ED who is thinking about having children in the next few years. i will bwe forwarding this link to her.
thanks Lou. xx
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
I feel your same …
I feel your same pain……when you were talking about your mum all i could think about was the same things my mum did to me………it’s a shame,but what doesn’t kill a person makes them stronger….stay well
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
I have had Anorexia …
I have had Anorexia and recovering from bulimia now, my brother has Anorexia. My mum is a bit weird with her food, it began a while back she went on a diet, it doesnt really help because everyone in the house eat different things at different times. When everyone thought I recovered I still had days without food, but no one would realise because we don’t eat together anyway.
It’s going to be weird if I leave for uni this year, Because i’ll be all on my own, and I don’t how my eating we be.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
Also If I had a …
Also If I had a child or children in the future, I hope I would be a good role model to them, eating healthy, but also It’s important to not call food ‘bad’ or ‘naughty’, and allow your child treats. Also incourgaging a healthy body image, not critising peoples sizes, you should be happy with the healthy body you have. After all your’d want your children to be happy individauls.
However some people are also going through there own things they may not nottice, thier own negativity.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
I really appreciate …
I really appreciate this video & your insight. Thank-you so much. My mom also has a weird relationship with food, dieting, and her weight. Her negativity is almost suffocating to me at times.
It is nice to know I am not alone and that there are people who understand. Thank-you for trying to educate people about this issue.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
actually my mom …
actually my mom doesn’t really care about my eating. but my dad calls me fat a lot. i am definitly not fat. i weigh about 100 pounds and am 5″6. it’s really annoying. when i get jeans(im a size 0) my dad asks “oh, you still fit in those? are you sure you don’t need another size?!” obviously that brings me down so much, so i eat in my room, to avoid dinner drama. it’s really annoying.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
I completely …
I completely empathize with you, except rather than my mother it was my aunt, whom I lived with for a while, and was always around even when not. I’m out of hospital and recovering now, my bmi has been healthy for 18 months or so, but despite most people close to me realizing I still struggle, and what to do, she does these things over and over again. I can’t even bear to speak to her now, and as awful as it sounds, after all thats happened, that doesnt even bother me. Sigh. Thanks for this x
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
wow, my mom has …
wow, my mom has never done that to me. i am however worried about how i act around other people. i fnd myself doing the same things to my friends… just not as intense as your mom did to you. i feel though that if i have a daughter in the future i will be very strict with her diet and what she eats. i don’t want her to develope an eating disorder, but i really really don’t want her to get fat.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
Thanks for your …
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Thanks for your comments! I’m glad I’ve ‘related’ to some people by speaking out about this. It’s so common, I just had to voice my concerns. I just hope parents are watching this video as well as those of us who have been on the receiving end of parental criticism.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
Ahh… Even small …
Ahh… Even small comments like that can be the start of something awful to a young person. Parents seem to not realise how vulnerable young people are, we are constantly bombarded by images of ‘perfection’, so the last thing we need is additional criticism from our parents. Their love should not be conditional of how we look.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
It’s so irritating, …
It’s so irritating, isn’t it… I hope he can introspect soon enough. Get him to watch this!
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
Hey Anna! You’re so …
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Hey Anna! You’re so lucky you grew up with a normal loving mother who didn’t have these issues. I bet you get loads of girls with problems like these… It’s really sad because it’s SO common and can have such terrible consequences. I hope mothers are watching this video! I’m glad I’ve overcome her negativity now, although I did have to go through an awful illness to get to this position of relative enlightenment! Thanks for watching
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
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March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
My therapist said …
My therapist said something about how anorexia hurts the mother because it’s the mothers role to feed the child and it’s the one of the most distressing things a mother can experience, to have a child who won’t eat. Obviously your mum takes it to the extreme but I thought it seemed relevant/interesting and figured I’d share that.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
Also tend to hoard …
Also tend to hoard food in my room, my binges would cost me £20 but I liked buying my own food and keeping it in my room, pretty much like you had your cupboard I guess.
My mum is also the same with making comments, she rarely says hi to me anymore, if she speaks it’s because she wants me to babysit or she has some comment to make about me. I’m trying to ignore her, so she seems to be getting ever more desperate to find something to complain about, no matter how petty or stupid!
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
I can’t believe she …
I can’t believe she had a go at you for wanting some milk when you were at your worst. I can’t believe she is incapable of seeing how her comments can make recovery harder or would have contributed towards the ED in the first place. Shocking, it really is.
Can relate though, I’ve been asking for years for permission to eat certain foods which weren’t my usual if I felt like something different. I still do, even though my mum wonders why on earth I’m asking, but I feel like I should?
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
I definitely relate …
I definitely relate. When I was 15 I went to the doctor and the doctor said out loud I weighed 115 pounds (so a BMI of about 20), my mom said, “well looks like I’m going to have to keep you away from sweets”. I don’t think she said it to be cruel, I just think that she wasn’t thinking. There were many instances of her saying snippy things like that.
I completely agree that mothers have to be much more careful about what they project on their children.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
You’re mother …
You’re mother sounds exactly like my father. I’m a dude and have an eating disorder, and I definitely think that, although I don’t blame my dad for anything, he somehow subconsciously influenced my eating disorder.
He had anorexic tendencies in his 20’s and the comments he makes now are similar, and have the same effect on me, as those of your mother.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
I totally agree …
How awful that your mom is like this..but how positive YOU for speaking out about it in such an intelligent way!
I totally agree with you…this was such a great video (as usual)! You are so right in everything you say…and I don’t speak from personal experience because I was fortunate enough not to have a mother like this but I do see this all the time with young girls that write to me/speak to me about their negative body image or eating disorders…90% it stems from their mothers.
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
You’re welcome! xxxx
You’re welcome! xxxx
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
Argh! Isn’t it SUCH …
I will remain all those things as long as you do 
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Argh! Isn’t it SUCH a pain in the arse. My mum and your mum sound completely the same… separated at both I reckon. Ha, my mum also criticises people in the street, on TV, even some of my friends. Nobody escapes her criticism - but it just goes to show how seriously self-conscious she must be… Thank God you and I are able to look at the way we act and think - what an advantage to have at our age!
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
ergh. unfortunately …
ergh. unfortunately, i can completely relate. She is constantly projecting her negativity surrounding her body image on to others, whether it’s members of my family or randoms in the street.. the other day we drove past a normal size woman in heels and she said ‘look at that FAT girl trying to make herself look thinner by wearing heels!!’ it’s ridiculous. anyway, thankyou so much for making this video, it’s an issue a lot of us can relate to. Keep being wonderful, beautiful and inspiring xxx
March 10th, 2010 at 8:21 am
Thanks Lou
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Thanks Lou